I know. Many of you don't even want to think about dating yet. But it will (eventually) happen, no matter how scary it might seem today. If you're able to take a step back emotionally, the idea might be a little easier to deal with. I think one of the most important things to remember when starting to date is having the right expectations.
If you remind yourself that when you start dating, you're not looking for a life partner, it takes a lot of pressure off. When you start dating, you're just going to be meeting people and perhaps spending a little (or a lot of) time with someone. Who knows what tomorrow will bring? But when it comes down to it, dating isn't about tomorrow, nor should it be. It should be about spending quality grown-up time with someone we enjoy being around.
Period.
I think it's natural for someone who is post-divorce to think through their long-term goals, and often they try to fit dating into this box as well. However, the dating world doesn't work that way. Ease in, enjoy the moment, and let things develop if the person is right.
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Yeah!
Ever noticed how dating before you're married is exciting...and after...is traumatic?
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