Divorce can really wreak havoc with children's perception of relationships. They ofter completely lose trust in the permanency of any relationship. When their parents start dating after a divorce, there are even more opportunities to screw up kids' futures - especially with younger children.
One way to help is to ease your children into the idea that you're seeing someone new.
Gently ease them into the new relationship. First, get the kids used to the idea that you're friends. It should be (seem) casual at first - bumping into each other at events and such.
Once your kids become comfortable with the other person, the next step might be to let them know that you're doing something together as friends. After a few of these "meetings." it might be ok to then tell your kids that you're going on a "date."
It's a much healthier message for children to see a parent dating someone they were friends with first than to suddenly see a lover in their parent's life. Hopefully it will be a message the kids will remember when they're old enough to enter the dating world themselves.
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